Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. When it is expressed in appropriate ways, you are letting go of the stress and frustration you are feeling and helping those around you understand your feelings. When anger is expressed inappropriately with blame and aggression, it can be very destructive for both parties involved.
Taking responsibility rather than blaming others is at the core of solving anger problems.
Here are some of the things you’ll learn from anger management therapy:
- Change starts with a simple yet difficult decision: making the commitment to change. This will require patience and hard work.
- Become aware of how others’ behavior affects you. Begin an “anger journal” and recognize anger triggers and the people that bring about an angry reaction.
- Recognize the signals in your body that tell you feelings of anger are surfacing. For some people it can be faster breathing or flushed skin.
- When you experience the signals, take a time-out. Do something physically active like taking a run to get the anger out of your body. Take time to journal and reflect on the underlying feelings beneath the anger.
- If you feel ready to do so, talk with the person you are angry with in a calm way and express the feelings that surfaced. Take responsibility for your part of the reaction.
- Develop an abundance of resources and a good support system. This will lower your stress and allow you support in times of frustration or anger. You can call these people when you are angry to ask for support in understanding more about what you are feeling and how to resolve the conflict in a healthy way.