Therapy for Improving Self-Esteem

What To Expect From Our Therapy Sessions

Many people notice their self-worth fluctuates depending on their circumstances. They are awarded with a promotion at work so they feel great about themselves. Later in the same day, their child yells "I hate you" and they sink into despair.

People with a low self-esteem have had childhood experiences where they were criticized, yelled at, ignored, or expected to be perfect all the time. Their inner voice becomes a harsh critic, constantly criticizing, punishing and judging their behaviors. People with a healthy self-esteem grew up in families where they were praised, listened to, spoken to respectfully and got attention and hugs just for being who they are. A person with a healthy self-esteem has an inner voice that is positive and reassuring. When they make a mistake, they may be disappointed, but they can soothe and support themselves rather than being harsh and critical.

Here's how therapy can help boost your self-esteem:

  • Teach you how to rebuke the inner critic. You can learn to recognize how you are judging yourself and create healthier ways of thinking and being, which will result in a higher self-esteem.
  • Help you catch generalizations you make that are self-defeating and teach you to be specific. For example, you eat junk food all day on Saturday and tell yourself "I have no self-control, I'm going to get fat, and I'll never be able to eat healthy again". You can learn to be more specific "This one day I ate poorly, tomorrow will be a new day. My track record shows that most of the time I eat healthy".
  • Encourage you to practice self-care. By nurturing yourself, you will feel more valuable, competent, deserving and lovable.
  • Increase your support network. Therapy can provide a healthy environment that can teach you how to be in other healthy relationships. Being around people who build you up increases your self-worth.

 

 

 

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Maria Lloyd is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist located in the Silicon Valley area— San Jose / Santa Clara County, California. Maria provides individual counseling for women for: depression and stress management, post-partum depression, anxiety and panic disorders, bipolar disorder, interpersonal relationship issues, self and identity issues, co-dependency, anger management, and managing grief and loss.