Ten Rules for Emotional Health

Are there negative patterns in place in your life that may make it difficult for you to be happy? Learn some practical changes you can make to enhance your emotional growth.

  1. Take care of yourself. Take time to eat well, exercise, relax, spend time with people you enjoy, and do activities that you find pleasurable. When you are at your best, you can give the most in the relationships important to you.
  2. Choose to find the positive things in life rather than focusing on the negative. Difficulties always present an opportunity for growth.
  3. Let go of the past. Don't waste your time and energy on things that don't benefit you. Forgive yourself and others. If you can't change it or have no control over it, let it go.
  4. Be respectful and responsible. Do what is right for you rather than worrying about other people. Don't get caught up in blaming other people.
  5. Acknowledge and take credit for your successes and accomplishments. It's important to acknowledge the good things you are doing well.
  6. Develop one or two close relationships where you can be honest about your thoughts and feelings. Emotionally healthy people have a good support system.
  7. Talk positively to yourself. Do not beat yourself up with negative self-talk. We talk to ourselves all day long so we might as well focus on positive things.
  8. Remove yourself from hurtful or damaging situations. Walk away from a situation for awhile if it is getting out of control. Give yourself some space to problem solve a positive approach or reach out for support to deal with the problem.
  9. Accept that life is about choices and is always bringing change to you to which requires adjustment. Life never stays the same. See the changes as an opportunity to grow and learn new things.
  10. Have a plan for the future. Develop long range goals for yourself, but work on them one day at a time.


©2009 Maria Lloyd, LMFT MFC38399. All worldwide rights reserved.
Maria Lloyd is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist located in the Silicon Valley area— San Jose / Santa Clara County, California. Maria provides individual counseling for women for: depression and stress management, post-partum depression, anxiety and panic disorders, bipolar disorder, interpersonal relationship issues, self and identity issues, co-dependency, anger management, and managing grief and loss.